How to win at online dating

09 February 2015

The dating world is full of horror stories, but don't let that put you off embarking on what could be the adventure of a lifetime. We uncover some of the most common online dating fails and explain how you can steer clear of them.



Fail #1: Neglecting your computer

Nobody meets their match by sitting at home and if you’re neglecting your online dating profile as well as your social life, chances are you’re going to struggle. Internet dating sites are designed to boost the profiles of the most active users; the more you interact, the more you'll be seen by other users. Be proactive – get out and about in cyberspace and then get out into the real world.

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Fail #2: Not being specific about what you want

There's no point searching on a dating website for matches in Manchester if you're a Londoner with no intention of relocating. Have a think about what you're looking for in a potential match and set your internet dating profile accordingly. For example, if you can't stand Libras, opt to search for Scorpios only . If you’re not interested in dating a fireman, look for people in finance.

If you still struggle to find matches, do play around with your settings but don’t feel like you have to compromise your standards. New profiles are added all the time and outlining your basic needs from the beginning means avoiding disappointment in the long run.

Fail #3: Not being confident

It's unlikely you'll meet your perfect match the very first time you try internet dating, but the more dates you go on, the more confident you'll become about meeting new people and starting new conversations. Confidence breeds confidence when it comes to online dating over 50, as much as self doubt breeds self doubt. Keep messaging new people and believe in yourself. Love can be yours!

Fail #4: Writing a boring profile

You may not boast the literary talents of Oscar Wilde, but one of his quotes certainly rings true for online dating over 50: “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” Don’t sell yourself short when creating your profile on UK dating sites, and don't be afraid to list your idiosyncrasies or hobbies.

Make the most of your passion for knitting or your interest in waxwork museums. You are you, and the right person wants to know who you are. Jazz it up, get help from a friend, but always make your online dating profile sound as interesting as possible.

Fail #5: Uploading the wrong photos

Misleading photos are one of the most common reasons first dates don’t turn into second dates. Keep your photos as honest as your profile – better to meet someone with a clear idea of what you look like before you show up than suffer through an uncomfortable first date with someone who was expecting something else. Remember, you’re a fantastic match for someone, no matter what you look like – you just have to find them.

Feel confident you won’t suffer one of these common online dating fails? Check out our guide to internet dating

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