Why women should 'solo sex' more often

If you're feeling worried - or even guilty - at the thought of enjoying some solo 'me-time', don't be. Getting touchy down below isn’t something you should be touchy about.

While women masturbating isn’t as taboo as it once was, there are still many women who don’t indulge or do so less often than their younger counterparts. A recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that most women do enjoy some solo sex around once a week. But why not do it more often? There are many reasons why you should.

It makes you more confident

You know how you like your hair to look, right? So when you go the salon, you know what to ask for and you’re more likely to actually get the look you want. It’s the same with orgasms. If you know how your body gets to climax, you can also help your current or future partner get you there, which gives you an air of confidence in bed.

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It makes you happier

It’s a physical fact - having orgasms releases chemicals that make you feel good. Endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin, for example.

It keeps things youthful down below

Better than any cream or lotion, masturbating gets the blood flowing to your lady parts along with natural lubrication, and by working your vaginal muscles (which an orgasm does naturally), your entire genital region becomes stronger, more elastic (and so less painful during sex) and youthful.

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It makes you less needy

If you’re hankering after a partner but currently single, masturbating can help relieve some aspects of your needs - making you come across as less needy. It releases that sexual tension, so that if you do happen to bump into someone new and attractive, you’re slightly less likely to leap onto him or her in a manner that might cause them to feel overwhelmed and run away. Instead, you’ll be able to strike up a conversation and flirt sexily, without seeming desperate.

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It can create more sexual desire

Bizarrely, masturbating can actually increase your desire for sex with a partner. This is because you tend to think about sex more often if you masturbate, which then also makes it more likely that you’ll want sex.

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It helps take care of your heart

Whether you orgasm with or without your partner, those climaxes help protect your heart, according to several different studies.

It helps you sleep

If you have trouble nodding off or the day’s stresses are still whirling around in your mind, nothing beats an orgasm. The chemicals released during orgasm are designed to help calm and relax you and fantasising and exploring your body is a sure-fire way to take your mind off any troubles you may have too.

It makes you look good

With more blood pumping around your body, an orgasm even makes you look better too. All glowy and fresh-faced. So treat yourself to a little self love before you head out for the night and get ready for some compliments!

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