Dilemma: should I try internet dating?

Jo Brand / 22 December 2016 ( 30 October 2018 )

A reader is feeling lonely and hates the idea of internet dating – but is it time to bite the bullet and give it a go? Jo Brand advises.

Dilemma: is internet dating for me?

Christmas and New Year is one of those times when everyone else seems to be going out to parties and having fun and I’m on my own. I’ve been divorced for three years, am 59, own a cat, and work part-time. I’d love to go out more but it’s really hard without being one of a couple. I hate the idea but… internet dating – yes or no?

Jo Brand's advice

First of all, I should say (and I know you know this really!) that Christmas is one of those times of year, like Valentine’s Day, when people without a partner are made to feel like the proverbial leprous spare part. It has to be said that most of this is down to a mixture of social prejudice, fantasy and a distinct lack of reality-checking.

The truth is that the pressure to partake of seasonal togetherness is all too much for some families and the festive holiday is spent arguing, sulking and throwing mince pies at each other.

Why on earth this coercive partnering is so important in our society I do not know because, for all the lonely individuals staring mournfully out of the window at Christmas, you can be sure that lots of members of families are desperately longing for a bit of peace and quiet on their own.

Having said that… welcome to the 21st century! Of course, internet dating! It’s definitely the answer.

Remember the bad old days when the only option was to go to an evening class and fight for the attention of the only half-decent-looking man under 70, along with five other gimlet-eyed, determined spinsters of the parish.

Internet dating does not carry the stigma it used to, so the world is your oyster.

I wish you luck, hope you find your prince and look forward to hearing from you in ten years’ time, mid-mince-pie fling, ’cause the bugger’s driving you nuts on Christmas Day.

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