Dilemma: my mother wants to move house

Jo Brand / 30 December 2016

A reader is tired of her mother always wanting to move house and writes to agony aunt Jo Brand for advice.

Dilemma: my mother wants a larger home

My mother never stops talking about wanting to move. She used to live in Devon and for 40 years said her house was too remote. 

She now lives five minutes down the road from me in a flat in Hove, but claims her new home is too small and she'd prefer to be in the country. Any suggestions?

Jo Brand's advice

I do beg your pardon, but your mother sounds like one of those people who is never happy with what she’s got. I think one simple given to remember about human nature is that people only do what they want to do. So it is absolutely no good trying to interpret peoples’ motives for why they might not like somewhere... if she really wanted to do something about it she would. 

We all try and impose our values on the people we love and persuade them to do something we want or think they want to do. We are not them! I suggest you call her bluff and find some possibilities online to show her and suggest she gets the ball rolling and I think you will see by her reaction whether she really wants to do it or just enjoys a good moan!

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