Dilemma: my grandchild swears

Jo Brand / 13 September 2017

A reader is concerned about her granddaughter's bad language.

Dilemma: I heard my grandchild using bad language

I was horrified to hear my son’s daughter, aged six, use the f-word when she was in a temper. 

My son and husband thought it was funny, which horrified me even more. Do I talk to the girl and tell her that is NOT all right to say that word? My son clearly isn’t going to…

Jo Brand's advice

Well, I’m ashamed to admit that part of me also finds children swearing a bit entertaining too, because of the incongruity. But it is the fallout that will be the problem if the swearing goes unchallenged.

With my adult hat on, if your granddaughter is not pulled up, who knows where she will fling out the f-word. School? At a friend’s house? At a passing vicar? (Not that some of that group have a moral leg to stand on these days…).

The biggest problem, which may directly impact on her, is in the friendship area. If a parent hears her swearing they may decide she is not a suitable companion for their child.

This is the road you need to go down to convince your granddaughter – and the rest of the family – that it is not to be encouraged.

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