Dilemma: I want to travel but my husband doesn't

Jo Brand / 20 March 2017

A reader would like to see the world in her retirement, but her husband wants a quiet life in front of the TV.

Dilemma: How can I persuade my husband to travel?

I’m nearly 70 and feel at the peak of my life: I’d love to rent out our house and travel, but my husband just seems to want to watch sport on TV. 

He’s the same age, but seems to have given up on grabbing what the world has to offer. We have the money, the time, the opportunity. How can I persuade him?

Jo Brand's advice

How about emotional blackmail or threats? I really don’t think it’s going to work any other way.

I get the sense that you have always deferred to him and wanted to travel, but have ended up watching Match of the Day 2 every week or making the cricket club sarnies pretty disgruntledly (sorry, is that a word?). I know lots of couples who have different retirement ambitions and for all you know the planet is full of carefree wives who’ve escaped TalkSPORT and fugitive husbands rebelling against another night at bingo.

Call his bluff, tell him you’re going on your own and then stick to your guns. If he relents and agrees to come, great… if not, you’ll have to be prepared to go on your own.

Otherwise you’ll end up bitter and regretful aged 80, while he’s still happily stuck in front of the box. Grab him and go!

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