Dating ice breakers – first date tips to get the conversation going

1. Be proud and share your passions

There's nothing more attractive than a person with passion. It sparkles in your eyes and makes you more exciting to talk to.

Perhaps you love making bracelets from cutlery, metal detecting for hidden treasure or baking up a storm. We all have passions and if you’re open about yours, you might meet someone only too happy to jump a fence and join you on your next treasure hunt.

2. Avoid conversations about ‘baggage’

So you've been scouring the web for first date tips but still not sure how to handle the prickly subject of baggage? By the time we’re over 50 we’ve learnt a few life lessons and more than likely stumbled a few times. Talking about these experiences is fine, but there’s a time and a place. Don’t like or dismiss it if the question is asked, but on a first date, try and stick to the highlights: “Did I tell you I once slept in a haunted house/took a wine tour through Cape Town/bought a house in rural Scotland?”

3. Don't be afraid to dream

Believe it or not, most people enjoy talking about themselves if asked about their dreams and aspirations. Share your hopes for a future endeavour and you'll be surprised how a conversation can turn into a plan. Perhaps you both want to trek to Everest Base Camp or open a B&B in Dorset. Perhaps you just both want to see the latest exhibition at a gallery. Don’t be afraid to share your dreams and they could soon be coming true.

4. Go somewhere that’s packed with conversation starters

There are lots of great places to go on a first date depending on where you live. If you're based in a city, suggest a trip to a gallery or exhibition. You’ll never be short on conversation starters when presented with amazing art or a fascinating history lesson.

If your area isn’t buzzing with cultural distractions, there will always be a spot of natural beauty to inspire. Take a walk to nearby countryside or coastline and marvel at the trees or water or even the weather. Just remember to immerse yourself in the conversation and let it flow.

5. Ask for help with something

Everyone loves to feel needed. If you’re online dating over 50, ask your match for their help or advice about something. It doesn’t have to be major – perhaps you’ve been wondering where to find a good yoga class or you’re not sure what colour to paint your living room. Make your date feel a part of something in your life and watch the ice break away in no time.

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