Going grey: to dye or not to dye?

To go grey or not to go grey? We've got the pros and cons of going grey, with expert advice and real life experiences...

Style and beauty writer Lynette Peck

Going grey is an inevitable part of the ageing process; as the hair’s melanocytes (cells that produce pigment) make less melanin, hair seems to turn grey.

In reality, it’s just losing its natural pigment – your hair doesn’t acquire a grey colour, it is just a variation in shade. Some end up with a head of white hair and others silver, or dark grey.

Of course, the greying process is all linked to genetics. Some go grey in their twenties and others their sixties or beyond. Just blame your parents.

Going prematurely grey, prematurely

There has been a trend for young men and women to dye their hair grey before they have even had one grey hair appear.

Known as the ‘retiree rinse’ and ‘granny hair’, it has been seen on celebrities such as singers Lady Gaga and Rihanna, various models, and has been a trend on fashion catwalks.

Well, so be it if they wish to copy those who do have natural grey hair. Take it as compliment, I say.

To dye, or not to dye?

The decision to conceal with colour or go grey is always a tricky one. Many women prefer to colour their hair, as they feel it makes them look younger.

Chemically colouring hair is obviously time-consuming and involves considerable financial outlay. It can also lead to hair breakage and a dry, itchy scalp, if not cared for correctly.

The jury is out on this one though as each person will have a different take. Letting hair go completely grey is certainly easier in one respect (not having to dye it) but it does bring some other hair issues to the table.

It is harder to manage, on a day-to-day basis, as it is drier and more flyaway. Plenty of moisturising and smoothing products will sort this out though.

Getting a decent cut can take years off you, regardless of hair colour.

Some of Lynette's key findings in the ‘going grey: to dye or not to dye’ debate:

• I would argue that those of us with olive or yellow toned skin might want to consider colouring their hair, as grey is a cool shade and doesn’t always look great with warmer skin tones.
• If you have very fine or thinning hair then going grey can make hair look sparser. Adding some colour will give the illusion of bulk. But again, it has to be cared for and it is best to seek professional advice.
• If hair is frizzy and flyaway then grey hair will be harder to control; colour will add weight and make hair sleeker and easier to manage.
• For ‘salt and pepper’ hair go to see a professional colourist, as they will be able to blend the patches with strategic highlights. If salon prices are beyond your budget, then either go for an all-over colour or all-over grey – both can be done at home.
• If you have been colouring over grey for so long you are not sure how much of your hair is grey, then you can gradually go back to your natural colour. This will mean switching from permanent to semi-permanent colour to start with and gradually going lighter each time you dye. Only colour the new growth and not the ends – it will all catch up eventually.
• If you have gone mostly grey but would like a hint of colour, then blonde highlights are your best option (we love Helen Mirren’s colour).
• To look after your grey hair (which can be prone to yellowing and dryness) condition it as often as you can and use hair masks regularly. Also try a brightening shampoo and rinse once a month with water with lemon juice in.

Saga Magazine writer Patsy Westcott

There was no lightbulb moment when I decided to go grey, just a dawning feeling that I could do better things with my time – and money – than spend them at the hairdresser’s.

Time was when my dark tumbling curls were my signature. When the first grey strands made an appearance I turned to henna, which served me well until, some years later, my hairdresser suggested a semi-permanent tint and, as the greys continued to appear apace, permanent colour.

Salon visits became ever more frequent until I was spending more time with my hairdresser, covering up the evidence of my age, than I did with my family. My hair was in terrible condition and the trademark curls were a distant memory.

Around this time I had some photos taken for a website. Freshly coiffed, I imagined I looked nowhere near my true age — until I saw the pictures. Far from making me look younger, my dark helmet of hair was distinctly ageing.

Could going grey make you look younger?

It was another year, during which I agonised, before I took the plunge. Friends were divided: many said it would make me look old. To boost resolve I roamed Pinterest for images of silver-haired icons, such as Canadian fashion influencer Grece Ghanem, model Yazemeenah Rossi and Helen Mirren. Meanwhile on Instagram @grombre, a celebration of grey hair, became my go-to follow.

In November 2016, I walked into my hairdresser’s and announced, ‘I want to go grey’. Naturally, it wasn’t that simple. The road to grey involved having blonde highlights put in to soften the regrowth: a lifelong brunette, I just didn’t feel like me. What’s more, despite my brave assertions, I feared that having grey locks would plunge me into wraith-like obscurity.

Luckily, this couldn’t be further from the truth. My hair has been its natural colour for more than a year now and it’s been a revelation. I love all its variations of shade.

Meanwhile, no longer stripped of natural oils, its condition has improved. Even my curls are making a tentative comeback.

Perhaps the biggest surprise though has been that, far from rendering me invisible, my hair attracts more attention – and compliments – than before. As for looking old, many of the friends who issued dire warnings now say I look younger. Not that it bothers me anymore. Ditching the dye has liberated me in more ways than one and I couldn’t give a toss of my silver mane.

Saga readers say...

• "No dye... No roots... No problem." Sandra, via Facebook
• "I am slowly adding more grey colour to the grey I already have - everyone is telling me it looks fab." Suzie
• "Never dyed my hair! 72 this year and have hardly any; I get accused of colouring, so no I won't bother when it goes grey." Hilarie
• "I decided to ditch the blonde and go natural grey. I use Provoke Touch of Silver Brightening Shampoo. Love the violet highlights." Marion
• "Gave up colouring my hair in May 2015 and I have never regretted it. I gave up wearing make-up shortly afterwards. So liberating and I love it as my hair gets paler year by year. I feel ‘real’ and why not? Think about it, why do we need to hide? Men don’t usually, do they?" Diane