Dilemma: crush on family friend
Agony aunt Katharine Whitehorn hears from a reader who has become attracted to a friend, despite being happily married.
A reader has developed unwelcome feelings for a friend
Dilemma: attracted to family friend
I am happily married but I keep having urges for a very close family friend.
I’d like to take things further with an affair, but don’t want to hurt my husband.
I know right from wrong, which is why I haven’t acted on my feelings for my friend. But inside, I feel as though I’m cracking up.
Katharine Whitehorn's advice
No, you’re not cracking up, but you could crack up a lot of lives quite easily.
I know what you ought to do, and so, I rather think, do you: which is absolutely nothing.
Nothing at all. Such urges aren’t uncommon, but everything depends on what you do about them.
I suspect most happily married people have the odd crush on other people from time to time, but they don’t necessarily
last, and even when they do they can stay in the realm of dreams.
It might help to steer clear of this man for a bit – if it can be done without making anyone wonder why.
Read our guide to understanding when a friendship crosses the line.
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